Are you and your spouse or significant other experiencing tension or going through a period of difficulty? Don’t panic! In our modern high pressure and hectic society, it’s almost normal. Many, if not most, couples experience some rough spots somewhere along the way.
The causes of these difficulties are many. Perhaps they are related to lack of communication, challenges at work, or problems with children and/or a blended family. Perhaps they are related to health issues or seemingly overwhelming stress.
Whatever the cause, you may need help. Such help may well consist of Emotional Intelligence Relationship (EIR) coaching.
In EIR coaching, often only a dozen or so sessions guided by the capable hands of an experienced coach is enough to unblock the situation and put you back on track. This type of coaching focuses on three aspects of your relationship, so as to:
Increase the positivity of your relationship
Decrease the negativity of your relationship
Develop strategies to effectively implement the core principles of Emotional Intelligence in managing difficult situations or building a common vision of your relationship
Regardless of whether your relationship is in the “just started dating” or in the “committed for years” category, and regardless of which of the three aspects you think needs work, I have no doubt previously coached couples in a relationship probably very like your own.
As Leo Tolstoy famously said, “ All happy families are alike; each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.” Whether or not that’s true, we do know that we now have access to new, proven concepts, such as Emotional Intelligence, that can dramatically improve your relationships. You now have the ability to develop relationships with intelligence, empathy and understanding so as to build constructive, lasting and happy relationships.
As a start, here is a list of questions I suggest you ask yourself. I believe answering them will be helpful in evaluating your situation:
Here is a list of questions I suggest you ask yourself. I believe answering them will be helpful in evaluating your situation:
- What are you concerned about in your relationship?
- What feelings most frequently come to the fore when you think about your relationship?
- Are some of your feelings in conflict or mixed?
- Without help, what is your candid expectation for your relationship?
- Are there extraneous factors that add to your concerns?
- What, in particular, makes this situation acute for you?
- Is your partner on board with what the problem is and what a successful outcome would look like?
- What would you expect to achieve in EIR coaching?
Honest, thoughtful answers to these questions will take you a long way toward focusing on the exact crux of the problem and deciding whether EIR coaching would be beneficial. If you conclude that coaching would be helpful, you owe it to yourself, your partner and your relationship to contact me right away. Our first, introductory Emotional Intelligence Relationship Coaching session is on me.
How it works.
I provide coaching sessions via Zoom from wherever you are in the world. Each session lasts 60 minutes and normally costs $350 per session. In order to give us the time needed to fully address your situation and potential, I recommend a minimum of twelve sessions. Included in the cost of the twelve sessions is the price of the Emotional Intelligence Assessment, which ordinarily costs $200.
Do you want to assess/increase your Emotional Intelligence so as to develop the positive relationships that may have eluded you in the past? Is lack of understanding of your EI preventing you from designing the rewarding relationship you and your partner deserve? If so, don’t hesitate to contact me for more information and to schedule your free introductory EIR coaching session.
I can’t wait to support you and help you to apply your new EI learning so as to empower and deepen your current relationship. Get curious! Game on! Remember, the only limits we have in life are those we impose on ourselves.
“Emotional intelligence is defined as “a set of emotional and social skills that influence the way we perceive and express ourselves, develop and maintain social relationships, cope with challenges, and use emotional information in an effective and meaningful way.”
- Daniel Goleman
“More people would learn from their mistakes if they weren’t so busy denying them.”
- The Gottman Institute
"Do you not know yet? It is your light that lights the world."
"I have chosen to focus on Emotional Intelligence Relationship (EIR) coaching because I have seen that use of Emotional Intelligence is the most effective, quickest and lasting way to achieve rewarding and mutually satisfying relationships.
Emotional Intelligence improves positivity, cultivates constructive communication and helps develop a common vision. Through use of it, each partner can understand his or her true role in the relationship and commit to applying new learning in order to grow as a couple. If you get the learning right, the rest simply falls into place, leading to individual self-actualization and a mutually beneficial relationship.
Regardless of whether you are experiencing a rocky period in your relationship or if you just want a more rewarding one, EIR coaching can enhance and deepen your commitment to stay happy together."
– Svetlana Whitener