“Manifestation” is a term for describing a way of making your dreams come true. It involves immersing yourself in an imagined or visualized scene, so you feel you are living that reality and are confident you are going to attain or achieve your dream. Some people claim they can manifest things like a new car, a new job or even a spouse or significant other. They believe that with sufficient intensity they can attain or achieve just about anything.
The inability to manifest something is often attributed to a lack of intensity or “resistance,” which is defined as inner friction, something that occurs when our feelings and beliefs do not align with what we want or what we think we want. Imagine, for example, an employee who has failed at manifesting a transfer to his or her company’s office in Paris. If resistance is to blame, it could be because of an unconscious belief that he or she didn’t deserve it or that perhaps such a coveted transfer was only for smarter, younger or more able employees. Resistance can also include such things as fear of the responsibilities and attention that come with success. Whether conscious or subconscious, resistance can hold us back, so it’s critical to deal with it so that we can manifest wholeheartedly.
In that regard, Carl Jung is often credited with saying, “What you resist not only persists but will grow in size.” Thus, if we want to overcome intense emotions or behaviors or avoid debilitating thoughts and viewpoints, we need to face them, evaluate them for what they are and work through them. With awareness, resistance need not be a source of pain, and we can use its clarity as a map and the fuel to take us to where we want to go.
How To Identify Resistance And Improve Your Ability To Manifest
To identify resistance, use your own awareness of yourself and your situation to figure out exactly what it is you are resisting. Ask yourself “What change am I resisting?” Then, write down the change you want to create and commit to it. Once you are clear about this change, use the four Cartesian questions below to assess how this change would or wouldn’t impact your life.y
The four Cartesian questions are:
1. What would happen if you did make this change?
2. What wouldn’t happen if you did make this change?
3. What would happen if you didn’t make this change
4. What wouldn’t happen if you didn’t make this change?
Thoughtful answers to these questions will pull your subconscious resistance into the light so that you can deal with it, feel inspired by it and hopefully overcome it.
A good example of effective use of the Cartesian questions is demonstrated by a person seeking to become a successful businessperson. Pursuit of such a desire can have significant adverse effects on family and personal relationships, time, health and spirituality. Rather than being unaware of these issues — or aware but ignoring them or thinking that time will work things out — it’s a good idea to imagine how your life may change upon achieving your desire or, conversely, what your life will be like if you don’t effectuate the change. The Cartesian questions are an excellent device for doing that.
In addition to asking these key questions, here is a checklist for successfully achieving change:
Recognize that awareness is key to change. Foster awareness by making it a habit to journal about your emotions, feelings and events. Actually putting these things down on a piece of paper will help you spot negative thoughts that can lead to resistance triggers. The sooner you notice your bad moods and negative thoughts, the sooner you can identify your resistance and take steps to overcome it.
Don’t ignore your triggers. Maybe you can push them into your subconscious, but they’re not going away. Also, don’t rush to judgment. Sit with them for a while. Accept them for what they are, and, finally, deal with them.
Turn negatives into positives by decoding your emotional data. Decoding means discovering the signals that our emotions are giving us and using this emotional awareness in the decision-making process rather than attempting to quash it or live long term with a negative thought pattern. After that, you can transform the negative thoughts into neutral or even positive catalysts. This creates energy — energy you can use to turn negative thoughts into empowering beliefs that can help you create actionable inspiration and make the achievement of your goals a reality.
Stop procrastinating. Procrastination is a typical sign of low energy and resistance. By identifying what you are resisting, you can take small steps to make the experience positive enough to remove resistance. You can overcome procrastination by taking baby steps. Make your first efforts easy or pleasurable. The boost you will realize from these early successes should give you the momentum you need to follow through to the more difficult parts. For example, small improvements to your personal environment, such as playing energizing music or organizing your work area, can be enough to get you started.
Meditate. A daily meditation practice, however short, provides an excellent opportunity to practice self-compassion. It’s ideal if you can start your day with meditation, as it will help you begin with a positive, productive and powerful mindset. Forgive yourself for any pain you have caused yourself or others. Be in the moment. Be “here,” dealing with matters at hand, not “there,” stuck in the past or afraid of the future.
Resistance versus manifestation is the unseen and unheard battle going on inside many people. If you’re one of them, you need not let it hold you back. There are so many challenges in life that you shouldn’t let unconscious resistance act as an anchor. Aided by awareness and emotional intelligence, shine a light into the shadows and overcome resistance. Free yourself to pursue and achieve your dreams.
This article was originally published in Forbes.
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